Perhaps the most meaningful thing about recovery -for me- is that fact that “I am not alone”. Throughout the ups-and-downs of the 20 plus years I have walked this journey, I have regularly attended recovery meetings. They have always been a safe place where I can honestly express how I feel without judgement or interruption.
There have been dark times and happy times. I haven’t done recovery perfectly at all. In fact, many times I have felt like such a slow learner, not even able to keep hold of the basic tenets of the program. However, in the “big picture” the steps and the fellowship has been a source of great healing and comfort.
Personally, I think the only thing worse then some of the horrid darkness that I have walked though in times past is walking through it alone. Since I got into recovery, I have never had to walk alone. There have always been meetings I could attend and tell my happy or sad truth.
Furthermore, I never felt like I belonged anywhere. I either felt better or worse than everyone. In SLAA, I have learned that I am not unique. I am just another “Bozo on the bus”. A garden variety addict.
I always gain something from other peoples shares. Sometime resonates as true and I feel connected and not alone.
To those who are struggling alone in your darkness… I hope you gather the courage to come to the meetings… share your truth… be open to hear others. There is hope. You never need be alone again.
You have taken the first, though anonymous, step toward your healing and freedom. You came to this website. Congrats!
It is said that the longest journey begins with the first step. And you’ve taken that first step by coming here. SOMETHING brought you here so pat yourself on the back for having the curiosity and the courage you showed by taking that first step. Now, take another and check out the pages on this website. Or read some articles about recovery from sex and love addition. And if you still aren’t sure if SLAA is for you, Why don’t you take a gander at the “characteristics of sex and love addiction” and see if you identify? People who struggle with sex and love addiction generally identify with this list of 12 characteristics. Perhaps you will too. And if you DO, don’t be ashamed. Sex and love addiction is a mental and emotional illness that started in you LONG ago…probably well before you were even aware of it. Reading about the characteristics of people who suffer from Sex and Love addiction isn’t meant to show what a bad person you are; instead, it’s meant to show you that you are not alone in your affliction. These characteristics affect tens of thousands if not millions of people.
You’re welcome to e-mail us at info@SLAANashville.org if you have some specific questions. However, why not be bold and just come to one of the meetings listed here. Yes, attending a meeting will take TREMENDOUS courage. No question about it. You will feel confusion, shame, indifference, hostility, alienation, sadness or all of those things put together. But, are those feelings different than the feelings that brought you HERE? Why not channel those feelings into helping you find a solution?
You may think you are the only one who has thought, felt and acted THAT way. That you are alone and unique in your pain and confusion. Well, you’re not! In fact, you need never be alone in your misery again! You can recover. There is hope. There is hope for YOU!! Join us to hear stories of experience, strength and hope. And begin your own journey of recovery.
Everyone is welcome.